Don’t be afraid to go after your own pleasure. I think one of the main things that a man likes about sex with his wife is seeing HER pleasure–possibly a little more than getting his own pleasure. Could I be right, guys? So go after your own pleasure.
If you want to do something incredibly hot and make your husband go wild, the next time you are having an orgasm, OPEN YOUR EYES and look directly into his eyes. Maintain eye contact as long as you possibly can. It is amazing, incredible and erotic. Watching him watching you, seeing his eyes go dark with desire, it’s indescribable.
Masturbate in front of him. Take your time, and watch him while you do it. Make sure he can see everything. You can bring yourself to climax or almost to climax and then let him take over, whatever you feel like at that moment.
Verbalize exactly how much you like what he’s doing. Don’t be afraid to make some noise.
Tell him what you want him to do to you. You can whisper a suggestion in his ear, you can “command” him to do it, or you can beg him to please do it.
If you’re a one and done orgasm kind of girl, try for a second one later during your lovemaking. You might have a refractory period, just like a man does. Find out how long that is and go for it. This might even be after his climax. His climax does not have to signal “The End”. Maybe your climax is “The End” sometimes.
Be selfish in bed. It’s okay, your husband is going to get his no matter what. Make sure you get yours. Even if you like him to be the one doing the driving, so to speak, you can still do these things and he’ll still be driving, and you’ll still be going after your own pleasure. It will be a win win.
(Whew, is it hot in here????)