Hello and Happy Tuesday! I’ve been pretty absent from my blog for the last week, I’ve been very busy with work and other mundane things. I also have something else taking up my free time right now. Conan says I’m obsessed, and maybe I am, I do tend to fixate on things (cue Conan rolling his eyes heavenward), but I’ve been enjoying myself. Anyway, thanks for coming to my blog and thanks for all the comments! I’ll reply soon.
So now. Conan and I have decided that we are going to have some sort of daily sex. Instead of one of us initiating, or asking, or us wondering if tonight we’re going to “do it”, or wondering if the other is “in the mood” or not, we’re going to turn it around so that it’s as normal a part of our evening as brushing our teeth and saying our prayers. Then, if there is a day/night we don’t have some sort of sex, that will be the exception, not the rule.
The reason for this is: On Mormon Missionary Position they were discussing initiating and how people go about doing that. I started thinking that initiating seems to be stressful for some people. It certainly used to be very stressful for Conan. Poor guy. I started thinking that it would be so much easier if there was no initiating. But how does one go about that? My solution was daily sex! I approached Conan with the idea and he said, that’s great, but you’re crazy if you think we can do it! I agree that it might be challenging, but I really want to try. One person commented that we might not be able to do it, because she thought men needed three days to recharge after sex, but maybe that was just older men. I think she got confused. Most men can wait NO LONGER than three days, they don’t want to take three days to recharge. I told her that Conan certainly doesn’t need three days to recharge, and he’s 50. Very little about Conan has changed in that area since he was 25 years old. In fact I have teased him that the Viagra people need his blood to make their little blue pills, ha ha! The only thing different that I can tell is that he doesn’t have sex on the brain 24/7. His job is too stressful for that. Another guy approaching 50 said he doesn’t need three HOURS to recharge. Good for him.
I know it’s not a question of physical ability. The question is scheduling and organization. We need to be sure the kids get to bed on time. We need to be sure we get to bed on time. We need to be sure we’re showered and clean before 11 o’clock at night! If I kill myself on the treadmill one day (actually every day that treadmill just about kills me), I can’t wait until just before bed to take a shower, because in all likelihood by the time I get out Conan will be asleep or it will be too late and we’ll both just want to sleep. Conan gets up very early and works long days, so this part is especially important.
I was talking to my two BFFs about this the other day. Both of them also said that’s a pretty ambitious goal. The husband of one of my girlfriends travels for work, so it’s impossible for them to get together for sex every day. But she did tell me something funny. Her way of initiating is to, get this, start the washing machine and the dryer. Her wonderful husband knows when he hears that washer and dryer going that he should get upstairs quick! I just about died laughing, because I also start the washer and dryer and even leave the laundry room door open for noise control, I guess you could call it! Too funny! How does her husband initiate? Well, she comes upstairs and he is laid out on the bed naked. That’s it. She says that’s fine, but she wishes he would take off his black dress socks, too, ha ha!! Okay, I just had to get that in there.
So how are we doing so far? Five out of seven. Due to one of us getting some kind of stomach crud. You can’t be having hot sex when you’re puking your guts out. It’s been fun so far. I’ll keep you posted on how it goes.
If YOU were going to go about having daily sex of some kind and both parties were willing, what would you need to do to accomplish that? How would that change the dynamic of your relationship?