Me: Hey, Conan, guess what my next post is going to be about? Conan: What, Doll? Me: Sex! *rolls around on bed laughing hysterically* Conan: *looks dubiously at wife while contemplating calling the men in white coats* hee hee hee!
I’ve been thinking a lot about participating in sex enthusiastically. And that’s relatively easy when both spouses like exactly the same things in bed. But what if there is something that really gets one partner going but isn’t the other partner’s favorite thing? I’m not talking they HATE it, I’m just saying it doesn’t get them going like it does the other partner.
I’m sure there is something in your sex life that your spouse likes more than you do. And vice versa. So what do you do about it? My suggestion is to participate as enthusiastically as you can. Maybe it’s not your favorite thing. But if it gives your spouse pleasure, why hold back? Put it on the sexual menu. It doesn’t have to be all the time, but as something special and nice for your spouse.
There’s nothing like your loving spouse participating in something you like, to give you pleasure, even though it doesn’t give them as much pleasure. Where’s their pleasure, then? The satisfaction comes from seeing you enjoying yourself and knowing it was all because of them.
Let’s say the wife wants something that her husband really doesn’t care about. He doesn’t hate it, but it’s just not his thing. It is one of her deepest fantasies. He discovers this and does what he can to please her in that area. And when that happens, she will love and appreciate him so much for it! And then she should definitely go way out of her way to be sure that he has a fantastic experience, as well.
Switch it around and the same thing applies. If it’s your husband’s deepest desire for a certain experience that you’re not as excited about as he is, it is a huge act of love to participate enthusiastically anyway. And he will love you so much for it! We can get a lot of satisfaction and pleasure from pleasing and pleasuring out spouse.
I look at it this way. If you don’t care for a certain type of movie that your spouse really likes, you don’t have to go see it with your spouse. Your spouse can go with a friend to see that movie. Or even go alone. However, If your spouse wants a certain something in bed, you are the only one who can provide that. Of course, your spouse can do without that little something, but if it makes him or her happy, then why not give it to them? (Unless it’s going to put your life in danger or something, of course!! ha ha!)
I encourage you to be enthusiastically giving in bed, even when what your spouse wants might not be your favorite thing. You will for sure reap the rewards yourself!
If you’re doing that for your spouse already, you are an awesome, wonderful, fabulous spouse who should be commended for your willing participation and thanked profusely!