What does your husband want for his birthday? The average, red blooded male wants SEX! I’m pretty sure that’s what he wants for Valentines Day, Father’s Day, your wedding anniversary, Christmas and New Year’s.
Why is it hard for some of us to give our husbands what they want for these events? This is the question our guys just can’t figure out. First of all, you don’t have to shop for it. Secondly, it’s FREE! Plus, it’s what they really want! Most importantly, it’s a gift that gives back, in a very nice way.
Oh, sure, there are other things that you don’t have to shop for and are free, like making a coupon for free hugs and backrubs (with no happy ending, I mean) or his favorite dinner or something, but I’m going to go out on a limb and say that a coupon for a free hug is not gonna cut it! (The dinner will be appreciated, though, I’m sure!) Anyway, I remember a time when expected sex just made me more standoffish than ever. It really irritated me to think that I was expected to put out at those times. That’s why I’ve written about being sexually giving, enthusiastically giving, etc., because I clearly remember when I wasn’t any of those things. I was selfish. I could not or did not care about Conan’s feelings, or, more kindly, didn’t understand and didn’t try to understand his feelings. Recently, I’ve been somewhat on the receiving end of this. I’m debating whether or not to blog about it–someday, maybe. But I will tell you I know how it feels, now. And that feeling is NOT GOOD AT ALL. A big hug, little smooch and a “Happy [fill in the day], honey, I love you,” even if you mean it, before rolling over and going to sleep is small consolation for rejection. That won’t make your spouse feel loved and cherished. Actions speak louder than words.
If you love giving gifts, if your spouse loves receiving gifts, that’s great! Go out and shop your little heart out. But if what he or she really wants is to make love to you or be made love to, make that their number one present!
I’m going to give you a pass on Christmas Eve. Especially if you’re like me and are up wrapping gifts ’til 3:00 a.m. while your husband peacefully slumbers, allowing you to do all the work. (I’m not sure Conan has ever wrapped a gift in his entire life, truthfully.) Anyway, after an eventful day of last minute shopping, cooking, family gatherings, wrestling with kids to get them to go to bed, and THEN wrapping the gifts, all this girl wants is my fluffy pillow and sleep!!! (Yes, if I was Ms. Superwoman and had all my gifts wrapped and ready to go beforehand, I could go to bed with my husband. Ms. Superwoman I”m not. Maybe this year–I still have a few days.) You do not get a pass if your husband helps you with everything and you go to bed before midnight, haha!
Do you want sex in celebration of holidays and major events like anniversaries and birthdays? Do you give sex for those events? Why or why not?