The Mormon Therapist has put out a very good post about masturbation, here. She really presents her case well. I have not had the opportunity to read all the comments that followed, but I did skim some of them and they are mostly positive. The most bizarre comment I’ve seen (so far) is that masturbation leads to pornography and homosexuality. Huh. Where’d they get THAT idea? Possibly some over-zealous leader or parent, I don’t know. But that one made me laugh out loud! On second thought, that’s a scary opinion, and quite possibly dangerous, too. It’s also a good example of how people are mis-taught as youth. That person teaches that to his/her children and so on. YIKES!
The sad comments are from men who were kept from advancement in the Priesthood as boys because of it, who attempted suicide because they could not squelch their sexuality, because they could not completely stop something so hardwired into our bodies.
Over the years I’ve had lots of different thoughts about it. When I was young I did masturbate. Of course, I learned that it was wrong like we all did, and I stopped doing it. I learned that one of my brother’s was having a challenge with masturbation and was having to work to overcome it or something. At the time I thought to myself, what utter nonsense. Masturbation is something so serious it has to be overcome??? But it was my dad who was talking to me about it, and he firmly, truly believes masturbation is a sin. So I went with what my dad taught and believed. I trust him and his counsel for everything. Why not that, too? I always did wonder how that could be right, though.
So I made a kind of compromise, where masturbation wasn’t ALL bad, but you shouldn’t do it just because, and you should try not to do it when you are single. See the bishop over it? Not in my opinion. Anyway, I personally stayed away from it. Now I’ve read a lot of people’s stories about it and done a lot of thinking about it over the last year or so, and I made up my own mind and came to the same conclusion as Natalie (The Mormon Therapist).
Then I really, really broke out of my comfort zone and started actually doing it. *GASP* Turns out it is really nice ;-). And I have had some very positive results (besides the obvious, of course).
I do have real life friends who read this blog, and so I don’t want to get too explicit, but what the heck, I’ve revealed a lot in some of my other posts *blush*, so…
Through masturbating, I’ve learned that I can orgasm multiple, multiple times. I have not reached a “limit”, yet, as in, nope, no more are happening. I’ve just ran out of time. So the sky is the limit, I do believe haha! Also, I’ve learned that I can have female ejaculation. (That’s a great subject for another post, because I get all kinds of hits on my blog from people wanting to know about that.) I think the best side benefit, though, is how easily and quickly it can happen for me now. No mental effort involved anymore. Compare that to how difficult it once was for me, and how I could only get one, and it had to be a certain way, etc. Nice!
If you are searching for answers about this masturbation question you will get good ones from Natalie’s post. I highly recommend her. Thank you, Natalie!