People find my blog all kinds of ways, but a very common way is an inquiry such as “Can my wife give me a blow job LDS” or “LDS hand job okay” or “mutual masturbation, LDS marriage”, and so on. (Oh-one of my favorite is “Sexy Mormon Women”. Yep, people find my blog with that search. Okay, okay, I’ll admit it, that’s me! hahahaha!)
The General Authorities do NOT have a list of sex acts that are forbidden or approved floating around out there. They’re not in the sex police business. Sex is your private business. It’s between the two of you, for you to decide, for you to enjoy.
Oh, what about The Letter? Okay, I admit that is floating around on the Internet, along with any number of opinions on the subject of all manner of sexual things having to do with our religion. I refuse to discuss The Letter, except to say that it’s not relevant, current or applicable. Go discuss it elsewhere. (I hate arguing and conflict.) But what about that book I read by Bro and Sis So and So that said oral sex was wrong? What about (very spiritual and just-about-to-be-Translated ward member) who told me that only whores and sluts do anal and you will go to hell if you do it? You don’t have to listen to them!!! Your sex life is your sex life. It’s between you and your spouse.
I’m just one woman, not even an important one, with an opinion. And my opinion is, if you want to do it…DO IT! Oh, zookie, but what about…..Yes, do THAT, TOO! (Oh: Unless it has to do with animals. Do NOT do that. AAaahhahahahaha! ) Touch, kiss, lick, suck, pinch, spank, slap, squeeze, (I think I”ll stop there, whew!) whatever part of your spouse’s body you want or they want. If it feels good, do it. That’s my opinion.
“If it feels good, do it.” That was a common phrase held up as an absolute no-no when I was growing up. We were NOT supposed to do something just because it felt good. In fact, if it felt good, I’m pretty sure we thought we’d go straight to hell if we did it! Here’s the thing: we weren’t married then. If you are, then guess what? You CAN do it, and you don’t even have to go see your bishop about doing it! I think there’s some kind of residual guilt or shame in a lot of us about that. If it’s not PIV, missionary position, one and done, vanilla sex and it feels soooooo good, it might not be natural and has to be just plain wrong. Oh, and if I feel guilty about it I’m supposed to discontinue the practice! (News flash: not all guilt is good, healthy or from a positive source. )
You do not need permission from your Bishop, Stake President or our General Authorities to do something in bed with your spouse. And I”m pretty sure they aren’t going to give it to you, even if you ask.
Have I convinced you? Good! Now it’s your job to convince your reluctant spouse. Good luck with that. :)